‘Love hurts’ is an accurate way of putting it

‘Love hurts’ is an accurate way of putting it

Teens in relationships experience both sides of dating violence

A recent study has found that teens in a relationship that involves dating violence are likely to be both a victim and perpetrator, as opposed to being just one or the other. In some situations teens play both roles with one partner or they’ll play one role in a given relationship and then another role in a subsequent relationship “The violence in a relationship can be mutual, in that both partners engage in some aggression. Or it could be a learned behaviour, so that someone who is victimised in one relationship perpetrates in another,” said lead researcher Denise L Haynie, PhD, MPH. The study examined data collected from 2,203 students from 80 schools, beginning in 10th grade and continuing through the end of high school and into college or the work force. Teens were asked whether their boyfriends or girlfriends had called them names or insulted them, swore, threatened them, pushed or shoved them or threw something that could hurt them. They were also asked if they had engaged in these acts. About 35 per cent reported being the victim of dating violence and 31 per cent reported being perpetrators during the study period. “It is consistent with other literature on dating violence among adolescents to find that boys experience dating violence at similar rates as girls and for girls to perpetrate at similar rates as boys,” said Haynie. “This is in contrast with what is known about intimate partner violence among adults, where women report more frequent victimisation,” the researcher noted Aggression in teen relationships may represent a pattern of escalation where it soon becomes hard to differentiate between victim and perpetrator, said the researchers. In the study, both boys and girls experiencing dating violence reported an increase in psychological complaints and depressive symptoms. Girls involved in dating violence also reported more physical complaints than girls not involved in dating violence. “More research is needed but right now the best advice is to help teens understand what a healthy relationship looks like and what to do if it’s not going well. Adolescents entering the world of dating are just learning how to negotiate romantic relationships and how to manage conflict,” said Deinera Exner-Cortens, MA, MPH, and a fourth year doctoral candidate in human development at Cornell University. “That’s where a programme on healthy relationships is vital for both teen boys and girls,” Exner-Cortens added. According to the Centre for Relationship Abuse Awareness, Relationship abuse is a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviours used to maintain power and control over a former or current intimate partner.