10 Things women should stop doing on first dates
First dates are always exciting. You don't know whether to go for a hug or a handshake when you finally see them, and there are those tiny , little, nervous silences in-between conversations where neither of you knows what to say next. Of course, let's not forget the anticipation of whether there will be a kiss or not while saying goodbye.While there's a lot of excitement in all that awkwardness, there are some things that just don't work for men on first dates. So, dear ladies, the first date is better off without these instant deal-breakers!
1 BEING ON THE PHONE ALL THE TIME
We're not saying a first date is a no-phone zone but if it's constantly buzzing and you cannot refrain from replying to every message right away , we've got a problem. It's rude to be on a date and still be messaging the whole time or worse, taking every call from your girl BFF .
2 TALKING ABOUT YOUR EX
Yes, you probably do have a sad past, no one's denying. But there are some things we really don't want to know on a first date. We don't want to know how he proposed to you or how much you miss him. Save it for drunken nights with your BFF .
3 ASSUMING THAT THE MAN WILL PAY
Times have changed and stereotypes have been broken.A lot of us may still offer to pay the bill, but we'd like you to leave that choice to us. Don't assume that every guy you go out with is going to pay the bill, just because he's a man.Always offer to pay the bill. Many of us don't mind splitting the bill equally, and it doesn't make us any less respectful towards women.
4 BEING TOO QUICK WITH JUDGEMENTS
Some men offer to pay the bill, not as a sign of superiority over women, but simply because they like being the host. Not everything has to come down to gender. Insist all you want on splitting the bill if someone else paying for you is absolutely unacceptable to you, but don't jump the gun and call him a chauvinist. Stop trying to find sexism everywhere. In all probability, he's just being nice to you, not because you're a woman but because you're his date. We're just as misunderstood as you and a half-baked judgement is the last we want to hear on a first date.
5 DISCUSSING FEMINISM
Yeah, you support equal rights for women. So do we.
But there's no need to make it a point of discussion on a first date.Give it some rest. Not all of us derive pleasure out of debating. Given how aggressive the movement has been off lately, we hear of it and talk about it enough in our daily lives. It's really not something we'd like to get into on a first date. A first date is to get to know about each other, spend some good time, not claw each other with our different interpretations of `empowerment'.
6 GETTING YOUR BFFS ALONG
As bizarre as it may sound, this is something a lot of Indian girls actually do! If we're going out on a date, do not just assume it would be okay to get your bestie to tag along just because you're too nervous, unless you don't want a second date.
7 TALKING ABOUT YOURSELF ALL THE TIME
Don't make every conversation about you. There's no bigger put-off than a woman who talks only about herself and never ever listens. Self obsession is cool only in hashtags, definitely not on first dates.
8 MENTIONING MARRIAGE PLANS AND KIDS
Yeah, we've just met. We're not even sure if there will be a second date, let alone marriage.Discussing marriage plans and children with a guy you just met is simply creepy.
9 ARGUING TOO MUCH
Of course, some of the best conversations sprout out of different perspectives and difference in opinions. But there's a fine line between discussing something and arguing. Don't get so carried away in voicing your opinion that you start forcing it down our throats. Know when to agree to disagree.
10 GENDER STEREOTYPING
You know, how you hate it when people say you belong to the kitchen. That's pretty much how we feel when you measure our manliness by gender stereotypes.Don't judge or ridicule us if we can't live up to your definition of what a man should be like.
First dates are always exciting. You don't know whether to go for a hug or a handshake when you finally see them, and there are those tiny , little, nervous silences in-between conversations where neither of you knows what to say next. Of course, let's not forget the anticipation of whether there will be a kiss or not while saying goodbye.While there's a lot of excitement in all that awkwardness, there are some things that just don't work for men on first dates. So, dear ladies, the first date is better off without these instant deal-breakers!
1 BEING ON THE PHONE ALL THE TIME
We're not saying a first date is a no-phone zone but if it's constantly buzzing and you cannot refrain from replying to every message right away , we've got a problem. It's rude to be on a date and still be messaging the whole time or worse, taking every call from your girl BFF .
2 TALKING ABOUT YOUR EX
Yes, you probably do have a sad past, no one's denying. But there are some things we really don't want to know on a first date. We don't want to know how he proposed to you or how much you miss him. Save it for drunken nights with your BFF .
3 ASSUMING THAT THE MAN WILL PAY
Times have changed and stereotypes have been broken.A lot of us may still offer to pay the bill, but we'd like you to leave that choice to us. Don't assume that every guy you go out with is going to pay the bill, just because he's a man.Always offer to pay the bill. Many of us don't mind splitting the bill equally, and it doesn't make us any less respectful towards women.
4 BEING TOO QUICK WITH JUDGEMENTS
Some men offer to pay the bill, not as a sign of superiority over women, but simply because they like being the host. Not everything has to come down to gender. Insist all you want on splitting the bill if someone else paying for you is absolutely unacceptable to you, but don't jump the gun and call him a chauvinist. Stop trying to find sexism everywhere. In all probability, he's just being nice to you, not because you're a woman but because you're his date. We're just as misunderstood as you and a half-baked judgement is the last we want to hear on a first date.
5 DISCUSSING FEMINISM
Yeah, you support equal rights for women. So do we.
But there's no need to make it a point of discussion on a first date.Give it some rest. Not all of us derive pleasure out of debating. Given how aggressive the movement has been off lately, we hear of it and talk about it enough in our daily lives. It's really not something we'd like to get into on a first date. A first date is to get to know about each other, spend some good time, not claw each other with our different interpretations of `empowerment'.
6 GETTING YOUR BFFS ALONG
As bizarre as it may sound, this is something a lot of Indian girls actually do! If we're going out on a date, do not just assume it would be okay to get your bestie to tag along just because you're too nervous, unless you don't want a second date.
7 TALKING ABOUT YOURSELF ALL THE TIME
Don't make every conversation about you. There's no bigger put-off than a woman who talks only about herself and never ever listens. Self obsession is cool only in hashtags, definitely not on first dates.
8 MENTIONING MARRIAGE PLANS AND KIDS
Yeah, we've just met. We're not even sure if there will be a second date, let alone marriage.Discussing marriage plans and children with a guy you just met is simply creepy.
9 ARGUING TOO MUCH
Of course, some of the best conversations sprout out of different perspectives and difference in opinions. But there's a fine line between discussing something and arguing. Don't get so carried away in voicing your opinion that you start forcing it down our throats. Know when to agree to disagree.
10 GENDER STEREOTYPING
You know, how you hate it when people say you belong to the kitchen. That's pretty much how we feel when you measure our manliness by gender stereotypes.Don't judge or ridicule us if we can't live up to your definition of what a man should be like.
No comments:
Post a Comment