Instead of appearing as a creep, there is some online decorum to follow when it comes to meeting women in the virtual space
Social media is a big part of our lives. We talk to a lot of people online on a daily basis and communication has effectively increased within our social spheres. Even meeting people for socialising over the internet has increased significantly over the years and many people look at virtual spaces to meet the right people now. Social media platforms and various dating apps are frequently used and sometimes they’re both a gift and a curse. Gift because you get to connect with plenty of people and curse because sometimes people just get stuck in the virtual world and have difficulty coming out of it. The first rule to find someone on an online platform for yourself is to know the difference between an offline and an online space. There is some online decorum you must adhere to, exactly how you would offline. For instance, it’s great if you’re bored and checking girls out online, jumping profiles like you’re on a trampoline, especially of girls you find cute and you don’t know. Maybe sometimes it’s the best way to meet someone but there are some dos and don’ts or a way to go about things, so that you don’t come off as a creep!
1 FIND SOMEONE FROM A SIMILAR SOCIAL CIRCLE
While it’s okay to try and talk to girls you don’t know on social media, it’s better if they’re in the same social circle or have at least two degrees of separation from you. If you guys have common friends then it’s a bonus because you can ideally find out more about her, rather than approaching her with a creepy message. An easier way to do this is to pick a friend from your friend list who is social and browse through her friend list. Choose someone who seems outgoing and maybe talk to your friend to find out if she’s single.
2 MAKE YOUR PRESENCE FELT
After you’ve selected someone you like, and have found out enough about her, you can send her a friend request or a ‘follow’ request. Don’t flood her inbox with ‘Hey, want to be friends’ messages. Instead, start making your presence felt by liking her posts, if her profile is public, or commenting on them. If she responds, great. Maybe then you can send her a message. In case she doesn’t respond, then you can send her a message saying you’d like to get to know her better. If she still doesn’t respond, move on!
3 SEND HER A SIMPLE MESSAGE
If you’re planning on sending her a message, make it simple and maybe witty perhaps. Don’t use clichéd pick up lines or something picked out of a text book. Girls dig humour, wit and simplicity, so if you can send her something that sounds smart and funny, you’re already almost there.
4 MAKE HER FEEL SAFE
Give her the right kind of attention and make her feel safe with your presence online. If you creep her out too much, she might just get put off and report you. Give her some time to respond and don’t hound her to get back as soon as you send her a message. If she sees how calm and composed you are, she will reply back. This article is not to creep someone out online or to stalk girls. We all check out other people’s online profiles and it’s human nature to be inquisitive. Just make sure you do it with some class and integrity.
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