BREAKING UP WITH SOMEONE YOU WEREN’T OPENLY DATING

BREAKING UP WITH SOMEONE YOU WEREN’T OPENLY DATING

Here’s how you can do it without causing unpleasantness

    Breakups are a part of life. There are friends we outgrow, relatives and family, who we distance ourselves from and spouses we cut ties with. However, how do you ‘breakup’ with someone who you weren’t even officially seeing? The one who was never introduced as your prospective partner because, well, you weren’t aware of what was going on between the two of you. We’re talking about the guy/girl who would never make it to meeting the friends/parents, who you’re still ‘just good friends’ with, who you’ve never had ‘the’ talk with, apart from other things. While most of us experience this; it gets difficult to end it without making it bitter. Here’s a ‘what you must do’ when bidding adieu to someone you are not in a relationship with. 

THINK OUT LOUD >> First of all, it is important for you to know whether you feel for this somebody. If you don’t, we see no reason why you shouldn’t let go of her/him. But if you have that little something going on for the person, make a move, tell them what you feel.

FRIENDS OR NOT? >> Know what to do next. Is it going to be uncomfortable for the two of you to remain friends? Or are you willing to be emotionally available to each other? Either way, gauge the situation and decide if you still want to be in touch or not. 

MEET IN PERSON >> Make sure you do this face-to-face, because that’s how it needs to be done. There remains less clarity when a relationship ends over the phone or via email. To leave no scope for doubt, talk it out. 

 

DELETE FOREVER >> If you’ve decided not to be pals anymore, stand by the same and stay out of touch. While it is okay to be acquaintances, deleting them from your life would be advisable. 

 
HAVE THAT TALK >> Talk about where this is going. Chances are the two of you feel zero chemistry anymore, so this should not be a heart-breaker. Be frank about how you have nothing more to offer to each other. 

 

LET GO >> If there was that slim chance for it to work, it would have, and there would be some initiation from the other side too. But since that’s not the case, do not brood over the loss. Instead, let it go.