No matter how great your relationship may be or how well you might have mastered your play in the game of love, there is always room for improvement. You can make anything and everything about yourself and your life, a tad better, including how you love. Confused? Consider these things that can make your love life better.
1 HEAL PAST WOUNDS
Moving on to a new relationship is not always indicative of having healed past wounds. Also, note that our past wounds don’t always come from past relationships. They can come from childhood experiences, failures in our career, abusive friendships or former lovers. It is not possible to heal all the wounds; some of them leave scars that may be permanent, and some may take a long time. What is important is that you cultivate awareness of your inner life, and where necessary, begin the process of healing.
2 STAY IN THE PRESENT
Let go of the fights that happened yesterday, last week or last year. Don’t pin hopes on a future together or a specific kind of a future together. Stay in the present moment, and learn to enjoy it thoroughly. A lifetime of togetherness is no more than an accumulation of moments spent together.
3 FIGURE OUT YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE
People communicate and express their love differently, and part of the problem in relationships (at any stage) arises from not understanding this. According to psychologists, there are five different love languages. Take the time to understand these, and figure out what is yours, and what is your partner’s.
4 HAVE A HEALTHY SEX LIFE
What is the difference between an intimate friendship and a romantic relationship? Sex! What is the difference between a satisfactory romantic relationship, and an exciting relationship? Mind-blowing sex!
5 FORGET GENDER ROLES
Strict gender roles may have worked to keep marriages intact for generations before us. But now, we look for more than a lasting marriage or relationship. We want a happy relationship. In this regard, fluid gender roles seem to work better. One of the reasons why gender equality works better in love is because it is conducive of honest, open communication, which is the bedrock of a happy relationship.
6 DON’T BE ALOOF
In the recent years, the millennial idea of staying ‘chill’ has taken over, and silently destroyed relationships. We are expected to be aloof and not care too much, but what’s a relationship without caring about it, and each other? If you want a better relationship, learn to care, and show it!
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