7 THINGS THAT SUCCESSFUL COUPLES DO DIFFERENTLY
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Ever seen a successful
couple and wondered how they are doing so well for themselves, and what
are the things they do differently?
1 THEY'RE NOT AFRAID TO FIGHT
Oh yeah, successful couples definitely fight. And they
aren't afraid of it one bit.Because what successful couples know that
most others don't is that fighting makes the little things go away . It
unleashes what's at the heart of misunderstandings and sarcastic
side comments. Any hidden feelings are shoved right out into the
spotlight and are forced to be acknowledged.Yikes. But happy couples
don't shy away . They listen, argue, talk, and they solve. They fight
clean, but they don't hold back their truth. They figure out their
stuff. And, after the smoke clears and the fighting is over, all of
those itty-bitty, annoying-as-hell problems seem to vanish.
2 THEY APOLOGIZE AND BOUNCE BACK QUICKLY
Although happy couples aren't afraid to spend a night hashing it out, they bounce back at an exceptionally fast rate. There's no grudge holding, no pouting, no resentment and definitely no rebound fight introducing itself around 10 pm on a Saturday night. (Gah, those are the worst.) Successful couples frankly aren't interested in wasting every moment bickering. They know that when a fight is over, it's time to say sorry and get on with their relationship. However, they do not skip over the apologies -those are incredibly meaningful. Apologies establish respect, empathy and the fact that (s)he was LIST-EN-ING.
But once those two golden words are spoken, it's on. Sorry , rebound fight, it's date night.
3 THEY LEAN ON EACH OTHER
Happy couples come to each other for comfort, support and counsel.They respect each other's opinion, and trust that they are being heard.These couples know that whatever they're going through, their partner will understand. Or at least try to.There's no pride in these relationships. They know that they can't handle everything on their own, so they don't even try . They share, they discuss, they ask and they listen. They support. If she has a really tough decision in front of her, he's there analyzing the pros and cons with her, while still encouraging her to trust her judgment. And you know if he's in the wrong, she's definitely on his side, challenging and listening the whole way through. They're partners, they're advocates and they're friends.No matter what.
4 THEY DON'T COMPARE THEIR CONNECTION TO THAT OF OTHER COUPLES
Just like you don't compare your dog to someone else's dog, successful couples don't compare their relationship to someone else's relationship. Love trumps comparison.Successful couples cherish their idiosyncrasies and complicated layers, so they naturally realise that the frequency of others' fights or the size of a wedding ring doesn't have anything to do with their happiness.Their success is only measured by their own opinions, and it is never based on how their friends' relationships are doing. Plus, they would, like, totally win that competition anyway . Kidding.
5 THEY DON'T LET THE PAST GET IN THEIR WAY
Successful couples might know all that there is to knw about each other's exes and crazy experiences and even the not-so-flattering episodes... but they certainly don't hold those facts against each other.They appreciate each other's exes.Yes, really. They appreciate that these people molded their partners, and had a part to play into the people they have turned out to be today.Well, and also... that possibly, at some point... an ex may or may not have totally messed up and made us look rather mature and sophisticated and stuff. Regardless of what the matter is, successful couples rarely ever spend their relationship delving in matters related to the past.They choose to be secure in their current relationship. They reflect on their previous experiences, share a few deep moments and light laughs and continue to live in the present.
6 THEY TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES
Whether they see a relationship counselor together or they seek out their own individual method of self-help, they get it done.Successful couples know that the key to taking care of each other is to take care of themselves. They don't let their own emotional crap pile up and soil the relationship. Instead, they face their baggage on a daily basis, and work hard to make sure they are the healthiest they can be.
7 THEY USE EACH OTHER'S LOVE LANGUAGE
Doesn't everybody want to be affirmed, touched, given gifts, granted quality time and have lovely acts of service bestowed upon them?
Why would anyone want to pick just one? Or even rank them? Shoot. I'd take all five any day .
But, alas, it is evident that some of these displays of affection weigh more heavily than others for each individual. And happy couples recognise this. They embrace their partner's love language and try to use it as much as possible. They are also honest and open about their own love language. If he loves gifts, then he owns it! Plus, he absolutely expresses the fact that her buying him that new fancy shirt makes him downright giddy . And, if she loves words of affirmation, then he focuses on those beautiful syllables she loves to hear -regardless of whether or not a present is in her hand. They love each other, so they show it in a way that their partner can fully understand.
2 THEY APOLOGIZE AND BOUNCE BACK QUICKLY
Although happy couples aren't afraid to spend a night hashing it out, they bounce back at an exceptionally fast rate. There's no grudge holding, no pouting, no resentment and definitely no rebound fight introducing itself around 10 pm on a Saturday night. (Gah, those are the worst.) Successful couples frankly aren't interested in wasting every moment bickering. They know that when a fight is over, it's time to say sorry and get on with their relationship. However, they do not skip over the apologies -those are incredibly meaningful. Apologies establish respect, empathy and the fact that (s)he was LIST-EN-ING.
But once those two golden words are spoken, it's on. Sorry , rebound fight, it's date night.
3 THEY LEAN ON EACH OTHER
Happy couples come to each other for comfort, support and counsel.They respect each other's opinion, and trust that they are being heard.These couples know that whatever they're going through, their partner will understand. Or at least try to.There's no pride in these relationships. They know that they can't handle everything on their own, so they don't even try . They share, they discuss, they ask and they listen. They support. If she has a really tough decision in front of her, he's there analyzing the pros and cons with her, while still encouraging her to trust her judgment. And you know if he's in the wrong, she's definitely on his side, challenging and listening the whole way through. They're partners, they're advocates and they're friends.No matter what.
4 THEY DON'T COMPARE THEIR CONNECTION TO THAT OF OTHER COUPLES
Just like you don't compare your dog to someone else's dog, successful couples don't compare their relationship to someone else's relationship. Love trumps comparison.Successful couples cherish their idiosyncrasies and complicated layers, so they naturally realise that the frequency of others' fights or the size of a wedding ring doesn't have anything to do with their happiness.Their success is only measured by their own opinions, and it is never based on how their friends' relationships are doing. Plus, they would, like, totally win that competition anyway . Kidding.
5 THEY DON'T LET THE PAST GET IN THEIR WAY
Successful couples might know all that there is to knw about each other's exes and crazy experiences and even the not-so-flattering episodes... but they certainly don't hold those facts against each other.They appreciate each other's exes.Yes, really. They appreciate that these people molded their partners, and had a part to play into the people they have turned out to be today.Well, and also... that possibly, at some point... an ex may or may not have totally messed up and made us look rather mature and sophisticated and stuff. Regardless of what the matter is, successful couples rarely ever spend their relationship delving in matters related to the past.They choose to be secure in their current relationship. They reflect on their previous experiences, share a few deep moments and light laughs and continue to live in the present.
6 THEY TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES
Whether they see a relationship counselor together or they seek out their own individual method of self-help, they get it done.Successful couples know that the key to taking care of each other is to take care of themselves. They don't let their own emotional crap pile up and soil the relationship. Instead, they face their baggage on a daily basis, and work hard to make sure they are the healthiest they can be.
7 THEY USE EACH OTHER'S LOVE LANGUAGE
Doesn't everybody want to be affirmed, touched, given gifts, granted quality time and have lovely acts of service bestowed upon them?
Why would anyone want to pick just one? Or even rank them? Shoot. I'd take all five any day .
But, alas, it is evident that some of these displays of affection weigh more heavily than others for each individual. And happy couples recognise this. They embrace their partner's love language and try to use it as much as possible. They are also honest and open about their own love language. If he loves gifts, then he owns it! Plus, he absolutely expresses the fact that her buying him that new fancy shirt makes him downright giddy . And, if she loves words of affirmation, then he focuses on those beautiful syllables she loves to hear -regardless of whether or not a present is in her hand. They love each other, so they show it in a way that their partner can fully understand.
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