past is nothing but a collection of memories, your future is nothing but your imagination, what you have with you right now is your present

Shoot it now and smile for a lifetime

    “The past is nothing but a collection of memories, your future is nothing but your imagination, what you have with you right now is your present. And if you work at making your present fantastic, you are ensuring there will be amazing memories to look back upon”. I live this quote as a life mantra. I think it’s crucial to relationships and your personal journey to take
photographs because, much as we think we will remember moments forever, we don’t. Fact is that we remember in great detail every moment of hurt someone has caused us and carry it around with us for years to our grave. But we gloss over the good, and forget so many moments that made us smile. And it’s the most important thing to remember how wonderful life has been. It’s the most amazing feeling to look back at photos taken over the years. More than being swept away in a wave of nostalgia, it reminds you of zillion moments in your life that have been fun and memorable. It’s proof on sad days that your life has been fantastic and fun filled. The visuals of laughter, joy, togetherness are therapeutic, and you realise how little it took to make you so happy at various stages. I take thousands of pictures every single year and every time I look at them, I am filled with so much inner joy. Lunches with friends, parties, family functions, holidays, photos of those I love, of those I’ve lost...!!! in those albums and videos are captured little moments of an amazing journey called life. Do yourself a favour. Get a camera and start shooting every little moment that makes you smile. 

 
I am a 16-year-old boy. I am a obese and my brother always refers to me as ‘motu’. Now everyone around me has also started calling me by that name. I find it very hurtful. Should I tell me parents about it? Obesity at 16 is a curse. It will take a toll on everything in your life. Be happy they are taunting you and channel your emotions into a fitness drive. You will thank them for this someday. 

I am a 30-year-old guy, I have known a girl who stays in another city for about eight years. For almost four years now, I have had feelings for her but I don’t know if I should tell her about it. My fear is that I will lose a good friend if she stops talking to me after I confess my feelings for her. What should I do?
She might be feeling exactly the same way. Perhaps you could figure out whether there is someone in her life, ask her what kind of man appeals to her, and what she’s looking for in a relationship. If she pretty much describes you, you know what to do, and if she doesn’t, then you know where you stand. 

I have five best friends — one from my school days, one from college, two from my previous workplace and one from my current workplace — and I find it hard to divide my time equally between them. In fact, all of them, at some stage or the other, accuse me of not paying enough attention. What to do? Make time for individual meetings over coffee, lunches and parlour stuff over the week and meet them all together for fun over the weekend. Be it dinners, picnics, clubbing or movies, do fun things as a group over the weekend. The more they like each other, the less they will resent each other. 

 
I really like my best friend despite knowing he is committed to another girl. However, there have been moments when he has told me how unhappy he is at times and we’ve even been intimate in some ways. I’m in a dilemma. Should I end what we have? All relationships go through ups and downs but as a best friend, you are there to help and guide, not to cloud the situation with your own agendas. Fact is he chooses to stay in that relationship, not be with you, so accept that you are merely tempting him in his weak moments. If you value your friendship, work on being a great friend and support system. Keep it clean, keep it happy, keep it forever.