Love your in-laws as much as you have loved your parents: Salim Khan to Arpita
My respect for Salim Khan sahably goes up every time I meet him.
He is a great head of the fami . He is not only an extremely
responsible man, who loves all his children equally , but he knows how
to keep them grounded, has taught them humanity and above all, knows
how to keep them together as a family . Such is the goodwill and the
love he and his family have within the film fraternity that almost every
film person, who was in town, turned up to give Arpita and Aayush their
blessings at their reception held at a Bandra five star hotel on
November 21. Excerpts from a conversation with Salim sahab on her
reception night:
Salim sahab, Arpita was your youngest child who lived with you. Your feelings after her getting married?
It feels like a vacuum. Kya aap kabhi bhi apni sabse chhoti ungli ki tareef karte ho kisi se? (Do you ever praise your smallest finger to anyone?) Do you ever thank God for giving your smallest finger? No. We don't even pay attention to it. But for some reason, due to an accident or otherwise, if God took away that finger of yours, you realise its value and utility. It's only when it is not there that you realise that you needed that finger in every work of your life. But it's a catch-22 situation. You feel the pain when your daughter is getting married as you want her to be with you forever, but at the same time, you also want her to get married, have her own family and kids.
Did you cry on her bidaai?
When you bring up a child, especially a daughter, for so many years and when she leaves your house, you feel so emotional that it is natural for you to start crying. The same thing happened to me when Alvira had got married. It had to happen with Arpita too.
Your feelings for her at this point?
You feel anxiety . You wonder how she will manage her house, she has to prove herself as a good wife. I also know that she is on her own and will have her own experiences and challenges. She also saw her father's marriage that stayed for 50 years and she would be thinking of how she too, can keep her marriage for 50 years.But I have met her in-laws and woh achche and simple log hain. She is blessed to have them.
Your advice to Arpita?
Love and respect your in-laws as much as you have loved and respected your own family and parents. There should not be any distinction in that.
Did Mr Narendra Modi accept your invitation to attend Arpita's wedding and reception?
I know Mr Modi much before he became the Prime Minister and we have a lot of respect for each other. Salman had gone to personally invite him and I had also spoken to him to invite him. Woh mera farz hai. He had said that he would try his best.But I know that he has just taken the responsibility of the country in his hands and there is a lot that he needs to attend to. He returned from Australia only on November 20 and the function was on November 21, so he must have had so much to attend to. But it is my duty and my farz to invite him for all our family functions and I will always do.
Salim sahab, Arpita was your youngest child who lived with you. Your feelings after her getting married?
It feels like a vacuum. Kya aap kabhi bhi apni sabse chhoti ungli ki tareef karte ho kisi se? (Do you ever praise your smallest finger to anyone?) Do you ever thank God for giving your smallest finger? No. We don't even pay attention to it. But for some reason, due to an accident or otherwise, if God took away that finger of yours, you realise its value and utility. It's only when it is not there that you realise that you needed that finger in every work of your life. But it's a catch-22 situation. You feel the pain when your daughter is getting married as you want her to be with you forever, but at the same time, you also want her to get married, have her own family and kids.
Did you cry on her bidaai?
When you bring up a child, especially a daughter, for so many years and when she leaves your house, you feel so emotional that it is natural for you to start crying. The same thing happened to me when Alvira had got married. It had to happen with Arpita too.
Your feelings for her at this point?
You feel anxiety . You wonder how she will manage her house, she has to prove herself as a good wife. I also know that she is on her own and will have her own experiences and challenges. She also saw her father's marriage that stayed for 50 years and she would be thinking of how she too, can keep her marriage for 50 years.But I have met her in-laws and woh achche and simple log hain. She is blessed to have them.
Your advice to Arpita?
Love and respect your in-laws as much as you have loved and respected your own family and parents. There should not be any distinction in that.
Did Mr Narendra Modi accept your invitation to attend Arpita's wedding and reception?
I know Mr Modi much before he became the Prime Minister and we have a lot of respect for each other. Salman had gone to personally invite him and I had also spoken to him to invite him. Woh mera farz hai. He had said that he would try his best.But I know that he has just taken the responsibility of the country in his hands and there is a lot that he needs to attend to. He returned from Australia only on November 20 and the function was on November 21, so he must have had so much to attend to. But it is my duty and my farz to invite him for all our family functions and I will always do.
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